Keeping safe if you are in an abusive relationship

If you are subject to abuse in your relationship, it is important to remember that it is not your fault, and to do whatever you need to stay safe.

Here are some suggestions that may help you feel safer.

• Plan an escape route from every room in your home.
• Think of a safe area in your home to go if an argument happens – stay away from rooms with no exits and hard surfaces where there are objects which can be used as weapons. If an argument happens, try to move to one of the safe areas.
• Think about and make a list of safe people to contact, if possible, memorise all important phone numbers. As you may not be able to get to your phone or it may be destroyed.
• Speak to a trusted neighbour about your situation who will call the police if they hear a disturbance. But only if it is safe to do so.
• Develop a ‘code word’ or ‘sign’ so that family and friends know when to call for help.
• Where possible, keep money with you at all times.
• Think about what you will say to your partner if they become violent. Use your judgement of the abuser to protect you and your children. You are in no way colluding with the abuser if you give them what they want to protect you and your children. Call the police as soon as it is safe to do so.
• Know where to go and what to do in an emergency and have an alternative.
• Teach your children what to do in an emergency – tell them to call 999 and be able to give the address but not to get involved – they should never use a phone in front of the abuser as this may endanger them.
• Install a personal safety App on your phone such as Hollie Guard – Personal Safety App or Bright Sky app | Hestia or both.